No… I’m Not Stupid.

My morning began with commenting on my friend’s Facebook thread. The thread had to do with yesterday’s Supreme Court ruling.

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As most of you know, I’m a Christian. The word Christian connotates a variety of definitions nowadays.

What I mean by Christian, is that I believe in the inerrant, infallible Word of God and I try to live it out to the best of my ability, which is flawed and imperfect. However, this does not take away from my sincerity of faith and willingness to learn and grow in Christ.

There were those on the thread who opposed what I believe. I was well aware in stating my beliefs that I was the minority. However, I respectfully wrote my stance and then was indirectly accused of being a coward, wasting my brains, intellectually lazy and basically, stupid for lack of a better word.

This person did not display an ounce of respect, kindness or tolerance toward me or my beliefs. They just condemned Christians as being unloving, biased and narrow minded.

However, this same person couldn’t see that what they were doing was precisely what they were accusing Christians of.

This person showed absolutely no tolerance for my beliefs, but accused me or people like me, of having no tolerance for others. Meanwhile, this person doesn’t know me to make such an outlandish accusation. This person was basing their opinion on their own limited experience.

This person falsely judged me. They don’t know me, they don’t know my history, education, background or life experiences. They simply threw me into the same batch as everyone else they’ve encountered.

There were a number of things I would have liked to have said to this person. But I held my peace. I knew debating with them wasn’t going to get me anywhere. They were determined to be right. They prided themselves on their intellectual and academic prowess. As if they’re above it all, having all the answers and condescendingly looking down at Christians, like me, as a pathetic, stupid and lazy.

As I’m getting older and maturing, I realize that trying to prove I’m right is futile and a waste of time. Winning a debate or argument all stems from pride and high-minded arrogance.

Jesus didn’t argue or try to be right. He kept silent most times. He demonstrated His love in actions. He was humble.

God gives grace to the humble. He wants us to be humble; not prideful, arrogant or argumentative.

I want to demonstrate love toward those who are vehemently against me and Christians, instead of trying to be right or having the last word.

Trust me, it wasn’t easy for me to keep silent. It’s not in my character or make-up to do so, especially when I’m being provoked or disrespected.

But I’m glad I listened to the Lord and didn’t feed into it, because now I have a peace that passes all understanding. I pray this person experiences the same one day.

What about you? Have you been persecuted, condemned or disrespected because of your faith? How did you handle it? Did you respond or keep silent? Please share in the comment section below.

  • Teresa Neal

    I have also learned to take the same stance that you have. Just smile, show kindness and not engage. But it is very difficult. I, like you, do not have it in my make-up to stay silent. But Jesus is teaching me to keep my tongue, my peace and pray.
    You are not alone! Hugs to you!

    • Thank you. I’m glad I’m not alone. Hugs to you as well my friend. 🙂

      • Cheryl

        Proverbs 1:7 – “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

  • Kelsey Anderson

    Jesus said that we would be persecuted for following Him. To me, the most comforting thing is knowing that God is in control. I love that one praise song that goes: “One day every tongue will confess you are God, one day every knee will bow.” For the people who are persecuting us, all we can really do is pray for them, which is the best thing I think. Some day they will know the truth, but I just pray that they know before it’s too late.

    • Amen and amen! So true my sweet sister. Thank you for sharing your heart and thoughts with me. I truly value and appreciate it. 🙂

  • Audrey Johnson

    You know the older I get, the more I understand that the world Christian does not mean the same thing for everyone. Unfortunately there are enough of those who make the claim that they are Christians while simultaneously mistreating and perhaps even abusing those less powerful. I don’t spend a lot of time defending my faith any more. It needs no defense. It can stand on it’s own. What I do find myself asking often when I run into those non-believers like those you mention, is “Who hurt you?” I have lived long enough to know that hurt people really do hurt people. This is not a sassy cliche’. The unfortunate reality is that there are many vicious mean-spirited people calling themselves Christians. And don’t forget, God has a lot to say about this too, like everyone who says Lord, Lord will not enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Some are going to be shocked when they hear Him say “Depart from me. I never knew you.” The truth of the matter is non-believers don’t know this or don’t acknowledge this. At the end of the day we all will stand before Him to give an account for deeds done in our body. Those who do not have God’s seal of approval (the Holy Spirit) will not make the cut and as sad as this is to think about, the other unfortunate truth is this will be their choice. No I don’t spend a lot of time defending my faith. I spend far too much time (sorry to admit) judging others who don’t look or think like me. I have a major pet-peeve with sagging. I have to work really hard to pray and not judge those who indulge. Sin is sin and it all stinks, but as a disciple of Jesus Christ my goal is His goal for me…. to be transformed into His image, to be a light for those in darkness and trust with all my might that I don’t become more darkness for those already in it. The very thing that annoys those non-believes you encounters on your Facebook is the very power that enabled you to keep silent. It is by God’s grace that we are empowered to pray for those who spitefully use us, to bless rather than curse, and to respond in kindness to those who treat us hatefully. No.. we are not stupid or doormats. The easiest thing to do is allow our human inclinations to take control. Saying no to our lower nature and allowing the nature of Jesus Christ to rule is truly the hard road and few find it. What I know is if I didn’t have Jesus as my Lord and His Spirit enabling in me to die to myself daily, I would look and act just like every other unsaved, unregenerated human. So, I praise God for saving me and pray that those who persecute me will too be able to say the same.

    • It’s always nice to hear from you, Audrey. I miss your emails. I big AMEN to your comment. Thanks for taking the time to read my post and write such a thoughtful comment. I appreciate you. 🙂

  • Shannon M. Howell

    I am argumentative. I can’t imagine the place where I don’t argue. So, more power to you that you can. I’ve had quite the religious journey myself, but wherever I have been, it has been hard to understand any other view. Just like if the crayon looks blue to you, it’s hard to understand why somebody would call it green.

    Still, it’s good to try.

    • I find you to be so diplomatic, I love it. Thanks for coming by, reading and commenting. I really appreciate your thoughts. 🙂

      • Shannon M. Howell

        That’s funny! I can’t imagine the word “diplomatic” attached to me. Of course, if I’m on somebody’s space, I try to be respectful and go no more pushy/crass than the owner. So, I think this means, perhaps, that you frequent rather polite diplomatic e-places. 🙂

        Frankly, my commentary that does NOT make it into print is of a different… caliber and tone than what actually gets expressed to others.