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Are You Playing The “Game”?

It is said, life is a game.

The pieces on a chessboard are people maneuvering themselves into strategic positions to win.

The “game” is played on the streets as well as on the internet.

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I’ve worked in Corporate America for almost 30 years, and there are unspoken rules there too.

You play the “game” right, you win.

You play it wrong, you lose.

Truth be told, I hate playing games.

I’ve always had a difficult time following a crowd or being part of a clique. I’ve never participated, and still don’t.

I’m not antisocial. I’m just not into pretenses.

Which is probably why I frown upon words like, “community” and “tribe”. It reminds me of a gang mentality.

Gangs are racist and discriminatory. They only accept people who are like them.

If you follow, you are accepted. If you say and do all the right things, you are in. If you don’t, you are cut off.

Social media is a slippery slope.

Most try to climb the ranks like a gangster.

They become friends with you on Facebook or follow you on Twitter, with an agenda. In the hopes that you will help them, but never with the intention of getting to know you.

It’s all about what you can do for them. How you can help them succeed or get ahead.

You see, it’s hardly about “community”.

Everyone follows and joins the bandwagon. They jump in head first to climb the ladder of fame.

The second you say “no” to something they want, you can best believe, they will unfriend or unfollow you in a heartbeat.

You no longer have any use for them, because you were just a “tool” to begin with.

Eventually, word gets around in the so-called “community” and you are exiled.

I don’t know about you, but I am not interested in following the sheep or rather, herd mentality.

I don’t need people’s favors to get ahead. If God has something for me, then it’s for me.

As with everything in my life, nothing was handed to me on a silver platter. I had to work hard and earn the right to have whatever I have today.

There are no political hand-outs or favors in my world.

I’m glad because I don’t have an “entitlement” mentality that most people have. I don’t walk around looking for ways on how people can help me or ask for favors.

Half of these people, who are in the same “community”, are landing positions they aren’t even qualified for. They got it by playing the “game”, rubbing elbows and doing favors.

When it comes to art, homie don’t play that.

My creativity came from God and I won’t be exploiting it any time soon.

I don’t subscribe to the “I’ll scratch your back, if you’ll scratch mine” mentality.

You can call it pride if you’d like, but I’m not stooping that low to get ahead, even if it means walking alone.

If I get anywhere with anything I pursue, it will be by the grace of God mixed with my sacrifice, effort and hard work.

Where do you stand on this matter? Are you buying into the dream their selling you?

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Why I Became A Muslim

Why did I become a Muslim? That’s a good question. Because I found the people who call themselves Christians don’t conduct themselves as such.

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You see, it’s one thing to be a struggling Christian and yet another to be a Christian leader. As a leader, you are not afforded the same liberties as a lay person.

I think the mistake is that many leaders choose what they want to do, even though God didn’t call them. They want God to co-sign whatever they choose, even though He didn’t choose it for them.

This is where I believe things go awry and what causes unnecessary hurts and offenses within the body of Christ. Because they weren’t called to be leaders in the first place.

God allows them to be there because He gives us free will. However, if you are not called into those positions, you will eventually fall on your face and do some major damage in the process.

We see it time and time again amongst leaders; the misuse of power, misuse of money, misuse of position, misuse of authority and a host more.

I just went through something last week that completely threw me for a loop. I had no idea I would get the kind of response I did from someone who is a Christian leader. To make matters worse, they falsely accused me of something I wasn’t even doing.

I can’t tell you how devastated and hurt I was by this Christian’s actions and words. I wasn’t even able to be heard, get a word in edgewise or communicate on any level with this person. I was refused the opportunity, but was cut off and ignored.

The Bible says when we have an issue, we are to take it directly to that person to resolve it. (Matthew 18:15-16). We are also to live peaceably with all men. (Romans 12:18).

Leaders are supposed to know how to handle and resolve conflict and not treat others as the world does.

Which brings me back to why I became a Muslim… because of instances like the above.

Christians who are cruel, insensitive and basically have no business being in leadership positions at all as they do not exemplify the love of Christ toward others.

If truth be told, I have been treated better by unsaved people more than I have from Christians. True story.

Which is why I fell in love with the Muslim community. I was hurt by the church in more ways than one, you can read about an incident here. When I decided step down from choir and leave the church.

After 9/11, I went to Egypt by myself. I met some Muslims there and spent time with them. I was treated better than I ever was treated by Christians. I was treated so well that I cried when I had to leave.

Is this shocking for you to read? Well, this is the honest truth. Something I’ve kept hidden all this time.

I have only experienced good things amongst the Muslim community. They are kind, loving, generous and will go out of their way to help you in a heartbeat. They really understand what community is all about. I felt like I was accepted and part of a loving family. A family I never had.

I have never experienced that in the church, ever. I see fragments of it here and there, but nothing to the extent or degree that I experienced firsthand in the Muslim community.

Why didn’t I remain a Muslim?  Because I had a supernatural experience with Jesus which I believe resulted from the faithful prayers of a few friends.

This is the simple answer, but there is a whole story behind this which I can’t get into now. Perhaps some other time though.

What about you? Have you ever been hurt by the church, a pastor or another Christian leader? If so, how did you handle it? What was the outcome? I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

 

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