Monthly Archives: June 2012
By: Tim Clinton and Pat Springle
Hardcover: 279 pages
Publisher: Worthy Publishing
Published: May 22, 2012
Language: English ISBN-10: 1617950734
Purchase: Amazon | Barnes and Noble
“Well he does have a good side.”
“You know, it’s probably my fault.”
“She’s had a rough life. I need to cut her some slack.”
When you really care about someone, it’s easy to get stuck in painful, even destructive patterns — caving in to a spouse’s manipulation, ignoring a live-at-home son’s irresponsibility; not confronting a friend’s addiction. We excuse people again and again, and then kick ourselves for not setting better boundaries. But this important book, with its transformational tools and insightful illustrations from leading Christian counselor Tim Clinton and noted author Pat Springle, will guide you in not only breaking through to better relationships but making big changes for the better.
With their expert principles for learning to say yes when you want to and no when you need to, you’ll discover how to give up your need to please, rescue, fix, or control anyone else. Leave others’ unrealistic expectations behind. Speak hard truth to those who have hurt you. And exchange harmful relationship habits for healthy ones. Here is expert advice you need for knowing when to give in and how to push back for the best life you can have with the people you love most. Check out the video here:
Break Through is an insightful and helpful book written for anyone who struggles with co-dependency. This book reminded me of another book I read and have recommended to many people, Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. However, Break Through goes deeper into defining what loving well looks like in relationships. Many of us believe we are loving others when we really aren’t. We think we are being helpful, when we’re actually not. This book helps expose the true dynamics in relationships. Whether the relationship is with a spouse, parent, friend or co-worker.
I loved this entire book, but my favorite chapter is five: “Dismantling Our Idols.” This chapter really opened my eyes to the function of idolatry in relationships. I was surprised by what I learned. Dr. Tim Clinton mentions the role in which parents play into these unhealthy dynamics. Parents frame how we relate to others. We mirror their example, whether it is functional or dysfunctional.
I found this book especially helpful because I’m a parent. I don’t want to pass along any of these learned behaviors, dysfunctional patterns or toxic functioning on to my children. Break Through gives good examples and teaches you how not to do that. Dr. Tim Clinton writes with sensitivity and compassion. He is not preachy nor does he condemn. He demonstrates grace to his readers and encourages that breaking free is attainable. If we do the work, we are guaranteed a breakthrough.
I highly recommend this life changing book. I believe everyone can benefit from it, I know I did. In conclusion, I want to thank Worthy Publishers and Handlebar Marketing for sending me a complimentary copy of this book to review.
Dr. Tim Clinton, LPC, LMFT, is president of the nearly 50,000-member American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) and founder of Light University Online, which has over 160,000 students enrolled. He is also the professor of counseling and executive director of the Center for Counseling and Family Studies at Liberty University.
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“Take no part in fruitless works of darkness; rather expose them…for everything exposed by the light becomes invisible.” Ephesians 5:11,13
Having spent nearly two decades of her life in the darkest valley of self-destruction, Shannon Deitz believed she was unworthy of God’s love. After she witnessed, as a child, the sex and drug-induced downfall of her sister, Shannon turned away from her Catholic faith and found herself caught in a wild and carefree lifestyle where she drank, partied and sought comfort in abusive relationships. She was raped — not once, but twice — by two different boyfriends. As she hit rock bottom, Shannon experienced an intense spiritual battle and inner struggle. Finally seeking truth, she understood that her life had never belonged to her. It had always belonged to God. His desire was for her to come to Him on her own — not out of compulsion, but from a heart full of love.
EXPOSED: Inexcusable Me… Irreplaceable Him is the story of one woman’s courageous journey from a destructive self-filled life to a place of spiritual self-discovery. This book exposed the awful truths of sexual and emotional abuse that many experience today. But it also reveals a restorative truth-no matter how deeply your wounds may run, you will always be worthy of God’s healing grace.
EXPOSED: Inexcusable Me… Irreplaceable Him is a transparent memoir which chronicles the life of Shannon M. Deitz I became interested in this book after I read the description. Unfortunately, I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. This book hit close to home; as if I was reading about my own life. I was completely caught off guard. I wasn’t expecting nor was I prepared for my past to hit me like a tsunami and overwhelm me like it did. Needless to say, this book was difficult for me to read. There were so many parallels the author and I share. I identified with the various experiences she went through and also how she felt on many levels
What did appear to be a common thread or theme for me throughout the book is spiritual warfare. She described many spiritual battles and supernatural experiences which I also related to. Unfortunately, these experiences weren’t positive ones which I believe tied into why she went through so much. Shannon Deitz spoke a great deal about her Catholic faith as well. I’m an Evangelical Christian, so I had some difficulty relating to her experiences with C.C.E., Catechism, The Eucharist and praying to St. Bernadette of Lourdes.
EXPOSED: Inexcusable Me… Irreplaceable Him is a poignant and powerful story about tragedy, forgiveness and redemption. Shannon M. Deitz does an excellent job writing explicit details with integrity and tact. However, based on the content, I would strongly recommend this book be read by mature audiences only.
In conclusion, I want to thank Shannon M. Deitz for the courage in writing her story. I also want to personally thank The B&B Media Group for sending me a complimentary copy to review.
Shannon M. Deitz is the founder of Hopeful Hearts Ministry and a worldwide speaker reaching out through personal testimony to offer the hope of Christ’s light and love to those who are suffering. A portion of the proceeds from EXPOSED: Inexcusable Me… Irreplaceable Him will go directly to help survivors of abuse through the Maria Goretti Network. Learn more about Shannon’s ministry.
This image is haunting, isn’t it? So is the reality of child sex abuse. Everywhere I turn, there is a horrific story of yet another child victim by a sex predator. I am sure you have heard or read stories of the Roman Catholic Church and the Penn State scandal. Last week, I came across this shocking story in the New York Times, “Prep-School Predators” which had my head spinning. I recently came across this article regarding the Poly Prep scandal in Brooklyn, New York. However, this story really takes the cake. I am so glad the father was not charged for protecting his five-year old daughter.
Stories like these and others, such as a survivor and author George Molho, who wrote Scarred really troubles me. I’m continually confronted with the thought that more needs to be done to help stop sexual abuse and trafficking around us. Child sexual abuse, pornography and sex trafficking is an epidemic and it is getting worse by the second.
Today I read a story in CNN about child sex trafficking in the Midwest. This happens every day, right under our noses and yet we can’t seem to figure out how to stop it. I shied away from writing about this topic because I’ve been told it’s not uplifting, positive or encouraging. However, I just can’t sit around and watch from the sidelines or keep silent anymore. Something needs to be done. This isn’t something any of us can ignore or avoid anymore. This has become a huge problem.
I honestly can’t understand what would possess a grown man (or woman) to want to have sex with a child? Nor can I fathom why anyone would enjoy watching child porn either. But this is really happening, it’s rampant and in demand. It’s also vial, disgusting and the epitome of evil. I wish I could stop it from happening and rescue every child.
We, as a nation, society and/or community, can no longer afford to turn a blind eye or deaf ear to what is happening to our children. We can no longer pretend it’s not happening. I believe we need to unite, pray, intercede, stand in the gap and take action whenever God opens a door.
What do you think? Do you believe we can make a difference?