Cha…Cha…Cha…Changes

You know that song from David Bowie? I’m giving away my age now.

Yes, there are many changes happening in my life right now. I don’t know about you, but I don’t embrace change too well.

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They say change is good. I guess some changes are good, but not all changes are good, at least, not for me.

I’m bummed out about one of the people I work with is leaving. We have worked together for four years. Now that we finally understand each other, he’s leaving.

I am happy for him as it’s a great opportunity, but I am sad for me.

Another change is my neighbors below me are moving out at the end of the month. Not only that, my next door neighbors are moving out too. I found this all out in a matter of one week.

I was devastated. I like the guy who is leaving and I like my neighbors who are moving out. Selfishly, I don’t want any of them going anywhere. I just want everything to remain status quo.

But this isn’t life… life is full of changes, some good and some not so good. I’m praying I’m assigned to someone kind and fair. I also pray my new neighbors are nice and considerate.

In a matter of weeks, things will be different. I am hoping it won’t be for the worst. I always seem to anticipate the worst though. Thank God I’m married to an optimist.

You know what I thought was nice about the guy who is leaving. He apologized to me. He said he was sorry he wasn’t nice or kind to me in the beginning. He said he misunderstood me. He thanked me for being patient with him (I don’t know if my husband would agree that I’m patient).

I was touched by him saying this. He didn’t have to.

It’s nice when people actually *get* me and where I’m coming from. I’ve been misunderstood far too many times in my life (but that’s for another post).

I will miss him and my neighbors greatly.

How do you handle changes in your life? Good? Bad? Please share in the comment section below.

  • Oh my, I really don’t do well with change and not knowing what is going to happen. The worst feeling for me actually. So much anxiety. I can totally relate. Thanks for taking the time to read my post, Chris. I appreciate it. 🙂

  • Kelsey Anderson

    For me, if they’re good changes, I’ll rejoice. But if they’re bad changes, I’ll cry. 😛 As I get older, I’ve learned that change is part of life, and there isn’t much you can do about it. I’ll give myself a few days to cry over it, but then learn to deal in the end. But lately, my husband and I have been praying for a change. We really want to start a family but we can’t because my hubby barely makes enough to support just the two of us. We know a change is coming soon, we pray every day, several times a day for that one break.

    I’m like you Pilar, I always assume the worst and my husband is also very optimistic. I’ve been trying lately to not assume the worst. Instead of thinking “what if something goes wrong?” I try to think “but what if something goes right?” It’s very hard, but I’m trying. Especially with this change my husband and I are praying for, it’s so hard to be patient for it.

    I’ll pray that you’ll get some awesome new neighbors and another great person to work with. And if you get difficult people, I pray that God will grant you a lot of patience. 🙂

    • Oh wow, I will definitely keep the both of you in my prayers. You and I are so similar, how cool is that! 🙂 Yeah, my husband is the same way, he’s like, why do you always have to think of the worst case scenario, what if we get even better neighbors, etc… he’s right, but for whatever reason, I anticipate the worst. I pray really hard that God gives me courage. Thank you for your lovely comment. I appreciate your coming by. I really enjoy reading your comments.

  • Shannon Deitz

    This is exciting! A new chapter in life and new people to share it! Think about all the things about YOU they don’t know. 😉

    • That’s definitely a great way of looking at it… now if I can only do that and get rid of my anxiety and fear, I would be a good shape. Thanks for sharing your optimistic perspective with me, I appreciate it immensely.

      • Shannon Deitz

        I am not one that handles change well either…or at least used to not…but then so many ‘situations’ kept occurring in my life that begged for change. I learned to look at all of these moments as ‘new chapters’ in order to help that anxiety and fear. I logically knew our lives have to keep going forward if we ever want to grow and achieve so I needed to mentally balance that out in my mind to accept that I am strong enough to push through the growing pains of these new chapters. 🙂
        It’s okay to miss having your friend/coworker around and to be apprehensive about new neighbors. God’s just asking you let more people ‘in’.
        From what I do know of you they are blessed to have this opportunity!
        Blessings
        Shannon

        • Amen, thanks so much, Shannon. I appreciate this very much.