I Don’t Believe In Bikinis

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Yesterday I read a blog post that I had a strong reaction to. I absolutely love this writer who is a dear friend of mine. A friend in whom I disagree on matters, but nevertheless, love and respect.

I didn’t write a comment on her blog, as my comment turned into several paragraphs. So I wrote to her privately and expressed my inner most thoughts.

One of the things, that surprised me even after I wrote it, is this:

I’m coming up against that a lot lately… people are unfriending me because I am not as open to everything as they are as a Christian. I’m one of *those* Christian’s who doesn’t believe in wearing bikinis to a beach, but wears trunks instead. Why? Because I don’t want the perverted pigs to feast their eyes on my goods, that’s why. I believe my body and those beautiful attributes of who I am physically should not be given freely like pearls to swine, but to my own husband who has committed his heart, mind, soul and life to me.

I read it…  then I read it again…  and I was like, wow… I wrote that?  Yes, I certainly did write it because…

I don’t believe in bikinis.

You must be rolling your eyes by now… Listen, I’m not telling you not to wear bikinis… you can wear whatever you want.  All I’m saying is, I’m not going to wear bikinis (or revealing bathing suits) to a beach or pool.

Ok… so, I’m not going to get the most popular vote on this post.

But let me ask you a question?  Would you rather I lie to you or tell you the truth?

I’m touching on a topic that most woman will vehemently disagree, even Christian women. I will definitely be described in several negative adjectives.

I’m sorry ladies, but truth is truth, I don’t believe in bikinis.

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This week I discovered a dear writing colleague of mine whom I still esteem, unfriended me based on a particular post I wrote. I wrote that said post with passion, and realized I would be taking a risk by writing it because I knew I would get some adverse reactions.

But, I decided I needed to write it. It’s what I believe. I have to be true to who I am and tell the truth. It was not my intention to willfully hurt or offend this colleague by any means.  However, this colleague felt she needed to cut ties and I respected her decision.

So, for those of you who still want to read my posts, I am making you a promise today, you will always get the truth from me. Perhaps you may not always like it or agree, but I would hope you would do as I do, which is to respectfully agree to disagree.

We are not all going to see eye to eye on matters. We all have our beliefs which we stand by. This is what makes us unique. If we were all the same, it would be a very dull existence, don’t you think?

God didn’t create us to be clones or robots. He created us to have free will, to think and express ourselves differently.

If we disagree, which I disagree with people every day, it’s not the end of the world.

Please accept my apologies if I hurt or offended you with any of my posts. It is never my intention.

At the same token, I do not want to keep silent and compromise who I am, my beliefs or censor my writing because others don’t agree or like it. I don’t think that is right either.

One wise friend and writer told me, always write the truth and that my friends, is what I aim to do.

Which is why I’m letting you all know, I don’t believe in bikinis. 🙂

Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section below.

 

  • Alycia Johnson Morales

    I agree with you about the bikinis, Pillar. Not to mention that some women should avoid bikinis altogether due to their body shape. And not to mention that women should also consider the younger generations enjoying the same sights at the beach and the pool that most men are partaking of. Sometimes I want to blindfold my boys before taking them anywhere just because women want to flaunt their goods via bikinis, daisy dukes, or multiple other clothing choices. I’m with you!

    • I completely agree, Alycia. Thank you so much for reading, commenting and support. Blessings.

  • Debra C.

    I’ve never considered bikinis to be an optional thing; is that crazy? From the time I was old enough to pick my own swimsuits, I’ve chosen 2 pieces. Now that I am a wife and mother, I’ve switched to one piece suits, but your article raises a good question for me.

    Why do we wear these revealing ensembles to swim? Would I ever wear only my bra and panties to work? Would I ever walk down the street wearing just a leotard? I wouldn’t, and it is bizarre that we have completely different “rules” for the beach or swimming pool.

    I would never strip to my underwear in front of a man that’s not my husband, yet I will parade around in a skimpy swimsuit in front of hundreds of men (and women).

    Your post sparked an important question for me and I enjoyed it very much.

    • Debra, thank you so much for reading and for your comment. I am grateful that my post has sparked questions for you. I am also glad you enjoyed my post, I honestly didn’t think I would get any positive feedback, but I wrote it anyway. LOL! Please come back again. 🙂

  • Pilar, for what it’s worth, Thank you for your stand, and your graciousness toward your husband, and the other men and boys who struggle with thoughts and images. You’re right that there is a lot of push back from people who want to enjoy their freedom and women who do not want to be objectified by men.

    I’ll save the long version for another venue, but what many ladies do not understand is how they objectify themselves by what they wear to the beach and pools. And freedom by virtue of it’s definition has to have boundaries.

    Thanks again for the bold expression.

    • Your comment is worth a lot. Thank you. I was bracing myself for some really negative comments. I am learning a lot today. I completely agree with you. Thank you for your encouragement. Please visit again.

  • DonyaDunlap

    This is good Pilar. I’ve also struggled with the idea of bathing suits in general. Thankfully, I’ve noticed several people blogging about this topic this summer and I applaud those who have shared their choices as an example to others.

    • Hi Donya, nice to see you here today. Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I appreciate your support and encouragement too. 🙂

  • I agree with the swimsuit issue, but more-over I agree that you should voice your truth without apology. In today’s society, there are many issues that even the most well-intentioned Christians will not see eye-to-eye on. You will, sadly, have to accept some folks unfriending you, but I applaud you for sticking to what you believe and not changing your tune in order to maintain or gain popularity. It is rare today.

    • Thank you so much. I really, really appreciate your comment. It’s been a difficult couple of weeks for me. Rejection always stings, but I realize I can’t compromise on what I truly believe at the risk of not being liked or accepted by others. Thank you for reading and I do hope you come back again. 🙂

  • euniq

    If a person can’t be honet when writing, they should be (soley) be reading. I appreciate your honesty and will continue to do so. 🙂
    -DDM

    • Thank you so much. I really appreciate your support and encouragement.