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I Don’t Believe In Bikinis

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Yesterday I read a blog post that I had a strong reaction to. I absolutely love this writer who is a dear friend of mine. A friend in whom I disagree on matters, but nevertheless, love and respect.

I didn’t write a comment on her blog, as my comment turned into several paragraphs. So I wrote to her privately and expressed my inner most thoughts.

One of the things, that surprised me even after I wrote it, is this:

I’m coming up against that a lot lately… people are unfriending me because I am not as open to everything as they are as a Christian. I’m one of *those* Christian’s who doesn’t believe in wearing bikinis to a beach, but wears trunks instead. Why? Because I don’t want the perverted pigs to feast their eyes on my goods, that’s why. I believe my body and those beautiful attributes of who I am physically should not be given freely like pearls to swine, but to my own husband who has committed his heart, mind, soul and life to me.

I read it…  then I read it again…  and I was like, wow… I wrote that?  Yes, I certainly did write it because…

I don’t believe in bikinis.

You must be rolling your eyes by now… Listen, I’m not telling you not to wear bikinis… you can wear whatever you want.  All I’m saying is, I’m not going to wear bikinis (or revealing bathing suits) to a beach or pool.

Ok… so, I’m not going to get the most popular vote on this post.

But let me ask you a question?  Would you rather I lie to you or tell you the truth?

I’m touching on a topic that most woman will vehemently disagree, even Christian women. I will definitely be described in several negative adjectives.

I’m sorry ladies, but truth is truth, I don’t believe in bikinis.

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This week I discovered a dear writing colleague of mine whom I still esteem, unfriended me based on a particular post I wrote. I wrote that said post with passion, and realized I would be taking a risk by writing it because I knew I would get some adverse reactions.

But, I decided I needed to write it. It’s what I believe. I have to be true to who I am and tell the truth. It was not my intention to willfully hurt or offend this colleague by any means.  However, this colleague felt she needed to cut ties and I respected her decision.

So, for those of you who still want to read my posts, I am making you a promise today, you will always get the truth from me. Perhaps you may not always like it or agree, but I would hope you would do as I do, which is to respectfully agree to disagree.

We are not all going to see eye to eye on matters. We all have our beliefs which we stand by. This is what makes us unique. If we were all the same, it would be a very dull existence, don’t you think?

God didn’t create us to be clones or robots. He created us to have free will, to think and express ourselves differently.

If we disagree, which I disagree with people every day, it’s not the end of the world.

Please accept my apologies if I hurt or offended you with any of my posts. It is never my intention.

At the same token, I do not want to keep silent and compromise who I am, my beliefs or censor my writing because others don’t agree or like it. I don’t think that is right either.

One wise friend and writer told me, always write the truth and that my friends, is what I aim to do.

Which is why I’m letting you all know, I don’t believe in bikinis. 🙂

Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section below.

 

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