Every Action Has A Reaction

A long time ago, I used to think my actions didn’t effect others. I was single, living in my own world and doing my own thing.

Unfortunately, being single didn’t allow me the ability to see myself clearly. It was when I got married, I was able to see choices, decisions and actions have repercussions and consequences, not only to myself, but to others as well.

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This was a huge pill for me to swallow and accept. We go along with our lives when we are alone, thinking we can do whatever we want, say whatever we want and it’s nobody else’s business or concern.

The world is our oyster.

However, this is living in a bubble or fantasy world, which is self-centered and self-absorbed.

The truth is every action has a reaction.

There is no getting around it, whether you are married or single, whether you want to believe it or not, your actions and choices effect everyone around you.

It’s like a pebble hitting the surface of water, you see the ripple effect. The same occurs with us; our choices are like pebbles and our actions cause rippling effects.

This is why we have to be careful to choose wisely because some actions are irreversible. The damaging effects of one wrong choice can destroy more than you bargained for.

For instance, a family member who continually betrays you by speaking negatively about you behind your back with other family members, thinking it will never get back to you.

But it always does, doesn’t it? Some way, somehow, the information finds its way back to the person.

Once this occurs, the damage is done, because you can never look at that family member the same way again. A seed of distrust is planted and with each repetitive instance, the seed of distrust continues to germinate and grow.

Yes, one can forgive and move on, but the trust and respect needed for a good and healthy relationship is broken and lost.

Has this ever been your experience? Can you recall a time when this applied in your life?

  • Florence Achama

    This is very true, I experienced this lately with a new job. I was given some temping work via an agency to teach in a really difficult school, there were 3 of us at the interview and we each had to do a mini teach. I went first and the lesson went reasonably well for the type of kids I was dealing with. After the mini teach and prior to the interviews the other two candidates decided it wasn’t for them which left me, I guess I felt a bit pressurised and sorry for the kids and the school and a lot misled by my ability to handle the kids. To cut a long story short a I took the job but didn’t last very long. I felt really bad about leaving because they had already had 2 other teachers and I knew that I shouldn’t have taken the job in the first place, I was quite sure that God didn’t have this in His will for me but for many reasons I went against that Knowing voice and did my own thing. I can only imagine the effects that my decision to take and then leave the job cost the school and students and even in myself and it was a big lesson for me to act wisely..

    • Please don’t be too hard on yourself. You learned a lesson, one that you shared with me and others who will benefit. God turns things around for the good. Let’s just pray that the Lord will send the person for this job and those kids. Thank you for being so open and honest, I appreciate and value it. God bless you.