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Is Your Word Bond?

Since the start of the new year, I seem to be getting hit with a reoccurring theme.

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In that, some people use the words loyalty, friendship, and trust loosely. Too loosely, I might add.

I guess I’m old school when it comes to my word. What I say, I do. I am not the type of person to play games with people’s feelings. I don’t just tell people things for the sake of saying them. What you see, is what you get with me.

Ask anyone who knows me, and they’ll tell you straight up, I’m a real and loyal person, which makes me a loyal friend. But what I’m realizing, to my dismay, is that not everyone is like this.

My favorite motto is “Actions Speaks Louder Than Words”. This is something I live by.

I have learned early that if someone’s words does not match up with their actions, then you can’t trust them. Trust has to be earned, and if one’s not careful, it can be lost.

Back in the day, the original gangsters lived by a code and loyalty was everything. Nowadays, it’s almost instinct. I think social media has something to do with this.

There is a benefit in dealing with people face to face as opposed to social media. In dealing with people in person, you have the ability to detect where they are coming from and what their true intentions are. You can discern it through their body language or the inflection of their voice. But not so in social media, which why it’s such a slippery slope.

On social media, people can hide behind their keyboards, and paint images of what they would like you to believe. Whereas in person, you can’t do that.

Bottomline, the only way for you to know if someone is telling you the truth, is if their actions are lining up with their words. For example, if someone is promising you something one minute and then ignoring you the next, then you know it was just words. If there are no actions supporting what they told you, then you are wasting your time with this person.

Yes, it’s disappointing when this happens, but at the end of the day, it’s better know the truth, then be strung along and taken for a ride.

This is why I question everything. People don’t like it or feel comfortable with my questions. They say it’s too much. But I’m not going to take what someone tells at face value, especially if their actions are not supporting it. God gave me a brain and I intend to use it. I’m not going to accept “whatever”, especially if I don’t know the person.

When someone says one thing and then does another, that’s called mixed signals, which never promotes trust. It also does not allow for a foundation to be built for any relationship to grow, whether it be on a personal or professional level.

Truth is, your word is bond, and without it, you have nothing.

What do you think has happened to loyalty, trust and friendship today?

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Are You Playing The “Game”?

It is said, life is a game.

The pieces on a chessboard are people maneuvering themselves into strategic positions to win.

The “game” is played on the streets as well as on the internet.

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I’ve worked in Corporate America for almost 30 years, and there are unspoken rules there too.

You play the “game” right, you win.

You play it wrong, you lose.

Truth be told, I hate playing games.

I’ve always had a difficult time following a crowd or being part of a clique. I’ve never participated, and still don’t.

I’m not antisocial. I’m just not into pretenses.

Which is probably why I frown upon words like, “community” and “tribe”. It reminds me of a gang mentality.

Gangs are racist and discriminatory. They only accept people who are like them.

If you follow, you are accepted. If you say and do all the right things, you are in. If you don’t, you are cut off.

Social media is a slippery slope.

Most try to climb the ranks like a gangster.

They become friends with you on Facebook or follow you on Twitter, with an agenda. In the hopes that you will help them, but never with the intention of getting to know you.

It’s all about what you can do for them. How you can help them succeed or get ahead.

You see, it’s hardly about “community”.

Everyone follows and joins the bandwagon. They jump in head first to climb the ladder of fame.

The second you say “no” to something they want, you can best believe, they will unfriend or unfollow you in a heartbeat.

You no longer have any use for them, because you were just a “tool” to begin with.

Eventually, word gets around in the so-called “community” and you are exiled.

I don’t know about you, but I am not interested in following the sheep or rather, herd mentality.

I don’t need people’s favors to get ahead. If God has something for me, then it’s for me.

As with everything in my life, nothing was handed to me on a silver platter. I had to work hard and earn the right to have whatever I have today.

There are no political hand-outs or favors in my world.

I’m glad because I don’t have an “entitlement” mentality that most people have. I don’t walk around looking for ways on how people can help me or ask for favors.

Half of these people, who are in the same “community”, are landing positions they aren’t even qualified for. They got it by playing the “game”, rubbing elbows and doing favors.

When it comes to art, homie don’t play that.

My creativity came from God and I won’t be exploiting it any time soon.

I don’t subscribe to the “I’ll scratch your back, if you’ll scratch mine” mentality.

You can call it pride if you’d like, but I’m not stooping that low to get ahead, even if it means walking alone.

If I get anywhere with anything I pursue, it will be by the grace of God mixed with my sacrifice, effort and hard work.

Where do you stand on this matter? Are you buying into the dream their selling you?

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